Monthly Archives: December 2016

What do you want to win in the game of life right now?

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Getting ready

Are you looking to take your game to a new and more creative level. What do you need to do to play to win at whatever is important to you right now?

Maybe a new job, a new business venture or breaking through a personal challenge…

Pursuing what we want is an adventure, it can be fun and challenging. At the same time it can be hard to face the challenges on our own, we get pulled and pushed by many different pressures in life.

So, what can you do get clarity and turn challenges into opportunities for learning and growth?

Here are some steps to get you started:

  • Be curious and excited about uncertainty – If you already know it, you can’t learn and grow
  • Be your own best friend – give yourself what you need to be the best you can be
  • Know the person you want to be – you are your own hero
  • Show up with all of you – bring all of who you are to everything you do

Need some support in your hero’s journey? As a coach I will be there to celebrate your wins, challenge you and encourage you. I will also be there to shine a light so you can see your path more clearly.

Looking for a new edge in the game of life, contact me

Are your expectations keeping you unhappy?

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I recently heard someone saying that “pain exist between reality and expectation”, making us unhappy in the present moment.

This posed a few questions for me:

  • I had grown up to believe that it is good to set high expectations. Otherwise, how would I grow and improve myself?
  • what about the “no pain no gain” theory?
  • Is it not through the discomfort we feel now that we make changes to have a different future?

Then it occurred to me that there is difference between expectations of what is now versus what we hold up as a future vision.

The gap between expectations of now and our present reality causes us more pain than the reality itself.

When things don’t happen as we want them to, we generally tend to see it as failure. Then, we blame ourselves, or blame others, and sometimes we even project our thoughts to some future “failure”. So now what is our state of mind? Not only are we unhappy with the outcome, we are unhappy with ourselves, our friends, co-workers, family members and paralysed with a fear of some future event that hasn’t even happened.

So how can we reduce the unhappiness and increase the chances of learning and growing?

Well, I know it is not easy, it takes practice, so here are some tips I have used:

  • Stop and become the observer – this allows you take a step back and see the event more clearly
  • Accept and make peace with the “now” – see and feel what is happening, including the feelings of disappointment
  • Let go of the desire to blame, self-criticise or change the past
  • Think of possible ways forward – what would you do differently, what could get in your way, how do your values come into play
  • Choose the way you want to be and feel
  • Take action accordingly

If you have tried these and want to share the results with me or have thoughts on this please contact me.